- Statement- You always leave your clothes on the floor.
- Translation- You are a slob.
- Better Statement- When you leave your clothes on the floor it communicates to me that you don't value my efforts to keep our home clean.
- Better Translation- I have a hard working wife and I need to step it up. Time to apologize and carry my load.
3.Take care of your stupidity filters
4.Repeat back to your spouse what you hear them saying and then affirm, as best you can, that their feelings are real to them