Knowing this truth, I could also reflect back on all the lies and fears the enemy tried to convince me of while were waiting for Ruthie. I know many of you are either in the process of waiting or you are considering adoption. I want to take this opportunity to share with you some of the things I feared and how they turned out to be far from the truth. I hope this is an encouragement to you:
1. I was afraid that when I got Ruthie and needed to take care of some of her basic needs like bathing her and changing her, that I would feel like I was taking care of someone else's child.
This was not my experience at all. God took care of the initial stages of bonding that were necessary for me to "mother" this child.
2. I was afraid that because Ruthie was a little older than we had "signed up for" that a part of me would grieve selfishly that she wasn't a baby. God really took care of this too. I actually really thankful now that Ruthie is a little older because she fits into our family so well and is able to interact with my older 2 better. I love watching the 3 of them play together. We are also able to do things as a family that would have been very difficult with a baby. Finally, I think Ruthie being a little older allows me to see more of her personality which has also helped me to bond with her.
3. I was afraid that the financial burden might be more than was fair to our family. God really did provide for all of our needs here. When we needed $1000 for a homestudy, Trent would get an invitation to preach somewhere or I would be offered a few extra hours at work. We were amazed at how the finances really came together once we decided to trust God and step out with a yes.
4. I was afraid that Ruthie's diagnosis would be more involved than what was represented to us. I have to say that this did happen to us. They did not tell us that Ruthie's elbows and shoulders were involved. I can also say that if I had known that in the beginning, I might have considered that to be more than I could handle. I am so thankful that God did not give that information to me because I, in my selfishness and limited understanding, might have passed up this wonderful gift that He has given me. I have not regretted, even for a second, bringing Ruthie into our family.
So as you are walking out this process in your own life, my encouragement to you is to tune out the lies of the enemy and cling to the HOPE that is found in Jesus Christ. Because there is:
hope for the waiting,
hope for the imperfect
hope for the outsider
hope for the oppressed
hope for the mediator
and hope for the unknown.
If you have already been through the adoption process and you want to share some of the fears you had and how God handled that situation, I would love for you to leave those in the comment section. Who knows, someone else may have that same fear right now and just need a little encouragement and hope that God has even that under His control.