Let me start this out by saying I was SOOOOO frustrated with my kids this weekend. At first, I thought it was all their fault and then, as the weekend went on, I realized that God was opening my eyes to a valuable parenting lesson. Basically, it all revolved around a lack of gratitude and a lot of whining about things that they should not have been whining about like picking up after themselves or helping me with their school assignments.
So I vented about how ungrateful they were and marched off to my room to come up with a plan to make them into grateful people now! My first instinct is always to blame our environment. How can you be grateful for what you have when your surrounded by a community of abundance? But then it hit me. I have already been addressing all of that. I let them pay for anything they really want that I don't deem necessary. They don't even know what designer clothes are except when they are hand-me-downs and even then they don't know the difference. They don't own an i-anything or a DS. Seriously my kids really don't have near the stuff as their peers. And then it hit me again. I am missing an entire side of gratitude.
My kids are incredibly grateful for what people give them. I think we are doing well there. However, they aren't as grateful for what others do for them. I have been working so hard to teach them the value of material goods that I have missed the value of self-sacrifice and service. Does that make sense? Basically, I am raising little people who think that if they spread it out on the floor that mom will be glad to come behind them and pick it up and that is how it should be. So without shocking their little systems, I think it is time for some change around here. I would love to hear how you break up household responsibilities. I am a mom on a new mission to raise kids who value the service of others and naturally take responsibility for their own contribution. Any advice?