If you have visited here before, you can probably see that I have changed the name of the blog again. I started blogging at 4URuthie to tell the story of our journey to adopt our 1st daughter. I changed it to Mountains for Maggie when we were praying for God to move mountains on behalf of our 2nd daughter. Well now it is no longer just Ruthie’s or Maggie’s stories. It is now our family's story, and the stories of those we share life with, as we Conquer Mountains together. Both ConqueringMountains.net and 4URuthie.blogspot will lead here.

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I am a pastor's wife, mother of 4 kids (2 adopted and 3 with special needs), physical therapist, and photography junky. This is where it all comes together for me. Feel free to join along as I process life out loud.

Monday, October 19, 2009

Thinking about Ruthie's Birth Mom Today

I listened to a webinar last night (thanks Jenn) from the author of 20 Things Adoptive Parents Need to Succeed. She spent a lot of time talking about the importance of honoring your child's birth parents. Before hearing this, I don't think I would have ever dishonored Ruthie's birth parents but I also don't think I would have made an intentional effort to honor them.

For example, the lady hosting the webinar said that each year on their daughter's birthday, they buy a bouquet of flowers and place them in the center of their table to honor her birth mom. The author was good to point out that adoptive parents accepting and honoring an adoptee's birth parents is key to the adoptee accepting their past.

I have been thinking on this today and would love to hear any other ideas or experiences you guys have for honoring birth parents.

TODAY'S SIDENOTE: Ruthie is getting right back to normal. I walked in the living room Saturday and found this. Please excuse the laundry in the living room. :) Enjoy!


Kim said...

Love the video! Go Ruthie!

Lori said...

Bust a move, Ruthie.

Kayli was on my lap when I watched this video and she clapped all the way through.

Ginny Henderson said...

Lori- I love that! When I was editing the video, RUthie kept coming over for an encore. Now I can't get that song out of my head. :)

Monte and Missy said...

Thank You for praying for our Abigail! We know that the Father holds her in His Hand, but it is still so very hard to not be able to go to her. Thank you so much for asking others to PRAY also. It is very encouraging to us to know that so many are praying.

Naomi said...

What a wonderful idea about honouring the birth mother!!! I love it and will try to remember to do so next year when Lydia turns 2!!

Looking forward to meeting Trent on Thursday!!!

Wendy said...

OMG, that is the cutest thing! I found myself giggling in my cubicle, it'll be our little secret!

Anonymous said...

We don't manage this every year, but we try to give Ryah's birthmom and/or her birth grandmother a present on mother's day. We especially like to give gifts that Ryah has made: artwork, decorated plate, etc. Ryah is super proud to give her work and it's important to her! -shannon

Susi said...

Way too cute! I think dance lessons may be in order... :)

Mary Lou Court said...

Briley and I watched this several times and just loved it. He said, "our little Chinese cousin"
She's a doll and so fortunate to have you and Trent in her life.

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